i have my likes and dislikes..
i have days when my emotions got the better of me..
i do whine..
i generally like laughter around me..
people enjoy being with each other..
that thrilled me..
but, sometimes where do i stand..
if i am stuck on the spot?
will people see me a diplomatic but insincere public relations ambassador?
communications requires skills..it's called PR..
communications with honesty..it's crudity..
i'm trapped.
speechless. now.
There are 4 basic styles of communication--which one my humble self falls into??
1) Aggressive - Often people think that they are responding assertively when they are actually being aggressive. These personalities come on too strong and their energy bombards or pushes at people. Because of life experiences, they are full of hurt, anger, and resentment. They all too often lash out at others or overly defend issues. The aggressive response tends to evoke aggression in others and make the aggressive communicator even more out of control, which further alienates them from others. To be in control is a dominant need for them. Then they feel safe: if they control or push others away, then no one can hurt them.
2) Passive - Passive communicators tend to appear weak and self conscious. Deep down they feel insecure and may experience self doubt. They let themselves get pushed around and say "I'm sorry" for things they didn't do. They radiate a sense of wanting to speak up, but they don't, so there is a feeling around them of unspoken expectations and unmet needs. Being passive perpetuates the cycle of negative thinking toward oneself and one's self image, and self esteem drops even lower.
3) Passive Aggressive - They will say one thing to your face and another behind your back. This is the most insidious of the styles because it is harder to confront and subtler than the other two styles mentioned. They deny responsibility: "I was just joking." Trust is non-existent and these people feed on negativity and gossip. They act in this way to achieve a pseudo sense of control. They find if they can subtly defame another, they are somehow achieving a victory for themselves and they think then that they will look (or feel) better than another.
4) Assertive - The *gold star* of communicators. Their communications are compassionate in their delivery. It is the ability to relay a clear message without blaming, shaming, criticism, or insinuating. They are compassionate listeners. Compassionate listening requires a deep connection that goes beyond the person's words. An assertive communicator gives undivided attention.